Dear Parents of today's generation.
Parenting is not just taking care of kids, its more of an art, an art only a few parents can master, that too only when they get close to their kids. You will be called a successful parent when you understand the needs of your kids and respond to it in a way your kid is totally satisfied with it; But, all I see these days is parents who like to enforce a whole lot of rules and restrictions on their kids to see them live a life like they want them to live. Also, there are some parents who see kids as future investments and treat them with everything they want just so that they take care of them when they grow old. Guys, Seriously, what's wrong with you ?? Did your parents give birth to you so that you can pay them back when they get old ? I mean where did this idea even come from ? I also don't understand why do you still insist on using the same old parenting tactics your parents used on you ?
I know I have been a little harsh above.. But, I also know how difficult it is to be parents amongst a busy daily schedule where the cost of living is high and both parents (rather the couple) have to work to live a comfortable life. I also know on one side there is a family pressure to bear kids which seem to be grandparent's only wish, but then finding a proper balance between work, bearing kids and raising them is really difficult. This is also the main reason why young couples like you usually resolve to have either one kid or a maximum of two and then let grand parents take care of the child till he/she grown just cause you wanna earn belly fully ?
I don't say Grandparents cannot take care of the kids, after all they are our parents and are experienced enough. I also know many of you have leave your kids with a care taker at home or a baby sitter. Do you consciously know what's happening at your back ? About how your kid is being treated or what your kid is doing in your absence ? They need your surveillance more than anyone. There has to be someone who has a direct love and care for his child to see that the kid is always safe. Also, now you gotta look up, the generation gap has reduced now, kids these days have a whole lot of wishes - something which we never even dreamed about. They cannot be brought up the way we were, they are a part of this world which has evolved with enough modern technology, that even an eight year old kid want's an i pad these days, so its up to you to be updated with things your child enjoys. You parents have to be along with the kids most of the time to understand what the kids want. You should also be decisive enough in being able to know what is right and what is not for your kid at his/her age, and; according to you, if you feel there is something your kid doesn't need at his age, be polite and make your kid understand about it instead of shouting or hurting his/her feelings.
Kids are a lot emotional and have a special kind of joy when they see you back home. I know, it might sometimes be annoying to see your child cry his/her needs when you enter home. But, come on... see to that you people come home with joy when you are with your kids, leave your office tensions at office and be calm and cool. After all kids might just wanna have some quality time when they see you. You are the ones with whom they can ask what they want. See to that you are there for them every time they wanna share something with you. Never shout or raise your hands on them, be polite to them, they have only a limited understanding of things and lack communal experience, the fear you create in their minds can keep them silent and can mask other emotions and feeling that they would wanna share. For instance, your kid might be bullied in school or might have a different story to tell every day, but the fear you create in their mind might just want them to hide it and trust me these feelings slowly add pressure on your kid and he or she might end up doing something wrong out of depression.
Sometimes, you couples (parents to the kid(s) ) might argue between your self and might have conflicts of your own, don't let the kids be a victim of all this. They tend to get a lot affected by such acts that happen at home. Also, kids observe a whole lot of things silently, be it the way you dress, the way you behave, the way you walk the way you talk...almost everything. As a parent see to that your daily acts are proper and no way could influence any ill habit on your kids
Let me tell you, things have changed, and parenting has evolved. You just cant be parents these days, but- be parents with a difference. Make your self attractive to your kids, let them come to you when they need and hug them with open arms. Kids these days need a companion at home, someone who can understand their needs and gel along with them, someone they can fearlessly speak to. Give them some quality love, and make them understand things instead of forcing them to learn things. Be a part of them, let them not only see you as a parent who invests in their needs.. but, someone who shares joy with them every time they need. The concept of buddy parenting is what today's kids need. As a buddy parent let your child be a child enjoy moments of his childhood by bringing out those "Khushi ke Pal"everytime you are along with them. Also, being a buddy parent you gotta learn to be your child's best friend only then can you be a good parent.
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